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annette

Registered: 02/02/10
Posts: 14
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Hello, Where do i start?
for some time know i have found broken Pens around my sons room.  just regular pens with the middle (ink) taken out.  a while back my mom came to stay with us and she joked around asking my son old about his paraphernalia?  my mom is explained to me that broken pens are not good. as time went on all the tops of my spray can seemed to be missing. 
then (not knowing) we bought some computer duster.  that was missing instantly. 
I finally got up the courage to ask him why all this, and ARE YOU HUFFING?  He acted insulted and cry-ed......and said i don't even know what that is?
so recently 3 years later i am finding allot of broken lighters with the tops off.  he is almost 15, i have caught him drinking, and smoking.  he has gotten kicked out of his school, and is very depressed. He still will not admit he does anything.  i don't know what to do. as a  mom i am scared. i have taken everything out of his room, and he is not allowed to have any money. i pick his cloths out for him, and locked everything in this house, the garage, Landry room and every-room in this house.  i have no prof and when i try to talk to him about it.  it seem he just gets smarter about it.  what do i do?

corgidaze

Registered: 04/28/09
Posts: 122
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annette,
Have him sit down and read the stories of all the people that have lost there life to huffing.. I can include my son. I lost him almost 2 years ago to huffing freon. The story is at the following link: http://inhalantinfo.blogspot.com/2009/11/remember-jacobs-smile.html     There are others just like my sons on this webiste. Have him read the posts the people talking of what phsyical disabilities they have as a result of huffing these things. This will KILL him at some point. I would hate to have you go through the hell I have had to endure in the last 2years.  Call your local hospitals and see what kind of help you can get for him. Something has to be done soon to save his life 

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annette

Registered: 02/02/10
Posts: 14
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Thank you  so much for your quick response.  At this point i have not caught him, and he just denies everything.  I am trying to get him to watch the A& E special.  he is trying to turn  it around He said, OH so you want me to do this? trying to make me feel guilty.
He honestly believes thou that i know he is doing it.  and he is trying to convince me he is not.
I do have a question, what would he use the empty pens for? and in his bathroom there was an empty air freshener can.  Would he actually spray that in his mouth? Yuck, wouldn't it burn your tongue?
corgidaze

Registered: 04/28/09
Posts: 122
Reply with quote  #4 
annette,
I dont know about the pens. But I suppose it would be something like paint maybe. The airfreshners cans though, Yes they do use them to get high

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SolarWind

Registered: 01/31/10
Posts: 29
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Hi there. My best suggestion is an intervention. Start with contacting a local drug and alchohol abuse center and speak with a professional. They can guide you with the steps to take. If you try to do this all on your own, the chances of success will not be as great as with outside help. The pens sound like he is taking out the ink and using the tubes as an inhaler. I wish you the best of luck and do not wait to get help. One more 'hit' can be his last.
SW
hermom

Registered: 02/03/10
Posts: 2
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Annette, In November I found out my daughter was huffing. I would have never imagined it. Then she tried to commit suicide, Od on several narcotics, alcohol & huffing-- The doctors actually brought her back... She has been in treatment and continues to huff. THis is a very tough addiction and it is deadly.
   The ink pens are used as small pipes. They will vomit alot throw up often. Even wet their pants.  They can huff anything in an aerosol can!! My daughter huffed hair  spray, furn polish, yes even the air freshner in the bathroom, she worked at sonic and had an endless supply of whip cream. 
  I would have never thought she would do anything- Do not believe your child, go with your gut instinct. Get him some help.  And pray ever day For GOd to keep your child safe, clean, Sober and for them to be at peace. Pray for protection and get him to a counselor.


annette

Registered: 02/02/10
Posts: 14
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hermom,
your words mean so much to me.
I just took my son to lunch and had a 2 hour heart to heart talk with him.  It is my gut feeling he is huffing. he will not admitt it to me for anything. 
i found another broken pen in his room today.  about a week ago i smelled vomit in his room but i did not find anything, he told me i was crazy.  He hugs me and tells me Mom i would never huff, i swear. He looks me in the eyes, and its breaking my heart . i am looking for a mentor, or a counselor know.  I thought we were so close and i promissed him i would not judge him i just love him, begging him to tell me the truth. He denies it.
No matter what i do he will not admitt it. i feel terrible.

focusman

Registered: 02/04/10
Posts: 1
Reply with quote  #8 
I went through this with my mom and my best friends mom.
let me tell you somthing.... by locking things up your telling him you dont trust him
pens? he is board he is probibly an artistic guy isent he? most likly he is just tinkering with the ink and i would imagine he is useing the spray nosels for paint cans i would buy him a cupple of boards he can spray paint and do his own thing out doors ofcorse its realy importent for a young man to trust his mom just as much as you trusting him he looks too you as the one who loves him no matter what and he allways will the last thing in the world he would want is to make you worried trust me this time in his life is hard he is becoming a man and doing that stuff will only make him depressed and insecure.
just remember he loves you more then you would ever know.

SolarWind

Registered: 01/31/10
Posts: 29
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focusman, while everyone can hope for the best out of a nightmare, sometimes thru it is the only way, not denial. From what annette posted, many of the signs of inhalant abuse are there. I would never suggest at this moment giving her son more reason to continue by blind trust, especially when items such as computer duster are involved. Also, both my mother and sister are artists and I asked them and there is NO reason to take the ink out of ink pens to 'experiment' with the ink. More than likely, he is using the empty tubes as huffing devices. Please remember also that inhalants are DEADLY and one hit CAN kill and DOES. annette, please follow your gut instinct and have intervention and councilling. Good luck
SW
annette

Registered: 02/02/10
Posts: 14
Reply with quote  #10 

focusman Thanks for the advice. and  what you are saying is right-on.  so the pen that i found in his room yesterday was a pen that  didn’t even have a straw like, it had a stopper at one end……..  And yes he is known to take things apart and just to put them back together.

I took him to his youth group last night........ And i need to make changes too.  We have date night every Wednesday and i committed never to miss it again!

I am making him do chores so he can quickly get his stuff back.  He admits he has smoked marijuana, and cigarettes.  He has a cough right know and blames it on the cigarettes, and is drinking tea to clear up his lungslol.  i don't think he is addicted yet. he is genuine about quiting. But as a mom i cannot take that chance and just turn the other way. he also is a con artist.
He is a very sweet 15 years old who says he said he feels lost, and i know he really loves me……… And i know he does not want to disappoint me. He has a terrible relationship with is dad.  We are still married.  

But i cannot forget how the duster went missing, or how there is no more spray caps on the paints, or how i find all the empty pen cases laying around. or how he gets angry when questioned. i helped him make his lunch this morning, and he so appreciates the little things. i think i am going to let him read all this blog.  So if anyone has anything to say to him please do.

 


annette

Registered: 02/02/10
Posts: 14
Reply with quote  #11 

SolarWind Thanks for you Knowledge input, I have called my local teen drug councilor, and have gotten very good input and have been trying to educate myself, right know when i call,i feel i actually know more than they do. i feel more alone after i get off the phone with them.  but i am just going to keep trying different ones till i talk to the right person. and your absolutely right all the signs are there. I also found broken lighters 4 in his room and 1 on the grass in the back yard.  one of the counsels told me that could be poping that is when you hold the lighter so long the top pops off, and its from smoking crack.  of coarse when i asked him he can play stupid really well. he said he likes to take the flint out of the lighters and throw them on the ground and make them pop. i do not believe that.

QueshiaB

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Registered: 06/16/06
Posts: 676
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annette- First, I commend you for being so vigilant to notice the items you did around your house, and for not being afraid to confront your son about it.  You'd be surprised how many people we speak with who prefer to turn a blind eye to a lot of red flags they see.

Please note you know your son best and I am not accusing him of abusing inhalants, just some thoughts.  The inside pen tubes you find on his floor look similar to the straw which accompanies computer duster. So as SW suggested he could be using this as a device to assist in huffing. We have heard of people abusing the butane in lighters, which could explain all of the empty ones you are finding.

Think corgidaze and hermom both had awesome advice in talking to him, getting him help and going through stories on our blog and/or this message board to display how lives can be negatively impacted by one person's decision to abuse. Very glad focusman lended his perspective too.

Generally speaking, if someone is an Inhalant Abuser, some or all of these symptoms may be evident:

- Drunk, dazed, or dizzy appearance

- Slurred or disoriented speech

- Uncoordinated physical symptoms

- Red or runny eyes and nose

- Spots and/or sores around the mouth

- Unusual breath odor or chemical odor on clothing

- Signs of paint or other products where they wouldn't normally be, such as on face, lips, nose or fingers

- Nausea and/or loss of appetite

- Chronic Inhalant Abusers may exhibit symptoms such as hallucinations, anxiety, excitability, irritability, restlessness or anger.

Also, please look out for behavioral signs as well. Because your son is young several of these warning signs may mirror occasional problems most teens experience.

- Painting fingernails with magic markers or correction fluid

- Sitting with a pen or marker by the nose

- Constantly smelling clothing sleeves

- Showing paint or stain marks on face, fingers or clothing

- Having numerous butane lighters and refills in room, backpack or locker (which you have seen)

- Hiding rags, clothes or empty containers of the potentially abused products in closets, under the bed, in garage etc.

You may try asking you doctor for local resources to help your son, or doing some independent research. We usually recommend the Substance Abuse & Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) for information by state: Center for Substance Abuse Treatment: http://dasis3.samhsa.gov. After clicking on the link a map will pop up, click on your state and enter city or address and treatment facilities will appear.

Tundra Swan Inhalant Treatment Program (http://www.ykhc.org/736.cfm) is the only residential program in the United States set up specifically to treat Inhalant Abusers, however it is in Alaska. As far as seeking help independently, you may want to call the Tundra Swan facility at 1-866-HUFFING (1-866-483-3464 or 907-543-6800). They specialize with adolescents, yet may be able to offer some valuable advice via telephone.

It's sounds like you're not going to give up on him, which is great! Continue to talk with him and making note of any red flags. Please keep us posted
.


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annette

Registered: 02/02/10
Posts: 14
Reply with quote  #13 
QueshiaB
Thank you, and i will def keep you guys posted There is allot of support on this website, I am going to pick him up from school today and take him to the 99c store just to burn time, i really don't want him to hang out with his friends. We have an appointment with a mentor on Monday, i also am looking for some kind of Volunteer work so he can help someone else.  I think that is what he needs, to feel good about himself. I know that makes me feel good to help someone less fortunate. i wish i could just pick up and move away from his friends.
My question is if he is huffing stuff like air freshener, does he put it in his mouth....? its wet.......right? i tried spraying it myself but i just cant understand.....i feel i need to understand.....i feel kinda stupid.......He know i am ignorant in this department.
SolarWind

Registered: 01/31/10
Posts: 29
Reply with quote  #14 
Hi again annette~
Many canned products that are inhaled are done so by spraying in a bag, or on a cloth or piece of clothing, then inhaled. Products like 'duster' (computer cleaner) are inhaled directly from the can. Also butane from lighters. Please read http://www.inhalants.org/final_medical.htm for more detailed info. Glad to hear you are so involved with your son. I am confident with your help and caring he has the best chances:-)
SW
klb513

Registered: 02/05/10
Posts: 1
Reply with quote  #15 
This is the scariest thing I have ever dealt with but my 14 year old son shows all the symptoms of inhalants. I have found the pens without the insides, cans without the nozzles. Empty body spray cans. No one in my family believes me he tells everyone I am crazy. I love my son so much and I don't know what to do to help him. I have spoken with him about it and he just screams at me, turning everything around on me. I have tried to catch him but I think i t drives him to doing it more. Anytime he gets in trouble he does it. His room smells of air fresheners, cleaning agents, you name it. I put a lock on my shed and he still gets into stuff.  I am a single mom and his dad isn't supportive.

I had a friend die when I was in grade school from aerosol fabric protector.
Sometimes he is skin color is bright red his arms and his legs. When I ask him what is wrong he doesn't know what I am talking about. He has sores all around his mouth and I am scared he is going to kill himself.
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