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samantha_english

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I too lost a loved one to huffing. July 5 2010I lost my oldest daughter,my first love, nd best friend. She had just turned 21. 12 days before she died. She was huffing comp. Duster. I found her body after she been mnissing for 2 days. I felt like I shoulda tried harder to help. But when I tried to get her rehab. They said she had to come in herself, I said pls she nbeeds help. But her being an adult they said she had to come in herself. I said it might be to late then. Nd that's what exactly happened. I know she wanted to stoip but the drug had ahold of her tight. Last thing I heard her say was love u too. It still feels like today. I always am wondering what coulkd I have done more. She gave me a beautiful gdaughter 1yr before she passed. Luckily she was healthy. She is evry but her mother. I feel my heart hurt every day. Knowing her baby will ask what happoened and I try to think how I will tell her. She just knows now her momma was sick nd had to go to heave with god. We tell her she watches her from the stars, moon, clouds. My gdaughter is named imogene after her ggma. Well one day it was clouding up trying to rain nd she said there's donnell ( her mom). I was like" what baby" she said there's my momma donnell I saod where she in the cloud. I was like oh well tell her u love her. Nd I cried.
sababc90

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I our lives are shattered , and i do not understand this addiction and cannot believe that this product is still being sold.
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Missingmybrother

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My brother died 9-11-2011.... As you know this is beyond out of control. I sent you a private message! Please know you are not alone and I pray you and your family are ok tonight.so hard and so heart breaking
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It's Russian roulette in a can, and I wasn't asking for death but I wouldn't have minded it. Up until I heard my brother freaking out waking me up in my car, saying "people die from that sh*t" over and over. He thought I was dead, since I had been sitting in my idled car till the battery died for hours blacked out. I've never seen anyone with that emotion, I don't want my family to find me dead like this. This happened two days ago, and was one of the saddest things I have ever experienced.

I'm 22, male
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Iloveu... I'm so sad to read this tonight . As I pray u r alive at this moment in time. The facts of this poison r on this site. Please listen to your loved ones cry for u! We didn't get that chance to help my brother as he kept his addictions to himself. I cry for him almost everyday....so sad and scared to feel anything happiness for I feel guilty. I can go on and on about trying to get help but really the bottom line is u have to love yourself and your family to live clean. Please message me if I can help u. As hundreds of people have and some here in my town that I hv spoken to about dust and other cleaning products. Just remember one inhale can send u in to cardiac arrest ....don't do this to ur brother! I'd do anything ,,,,,anything to hv my brother back! I'm here friend... I promise I can help missingmybrother

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I feel like I woke up to a second chance, and I won't risk it anymore. Seeing how my brother actually reacted to finding me unconscious is unshakable, I never thought I'd see how someone would respond to finding me dead. I feel like I've been terribly ungrateful for love, life, and my responsibility to be a good son and older brother. I can't find peace by repenting or asking for forgiveness to god, because I am not religious. But I've decided that we are all a gift to one an other, we are all reasons to look forward.
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So sad.  I'm a mother of a beautiful 31 yr old daughter who has tried everything to get her to commit to a 24 hour rehab center.  She has lost her job because of huffing air duster and she was arrested at a Wal Mart parking lot. She stays in her apartment all day long after stealing cans from Wal Mart. I have called the police several times but they can't do anything.  I have even told them that she is committing suicide and still she refuses to get help.  She even had 2nd degree burns on her face and 3rd degree burns on her leg.  The police finally forced her to receive treatment but she was only in the hospital for 2 1/2 days.  They released her even though I begged the nurse and the doctor while she was at the hospital to keep her in there because she is a harm to herself and to others.  I don't know what else I can do.  She has been doing this for over 2 years and it was so bad she was doing it at work.  She keeps telling me I don't understand and I don't.  I keep telling her I pray everyday that she realizes she needs to be in a 24 hr a day in patient care facility to get off of this.  What does for them to get into a 24 hr rehab center?
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4/8/13

I just lost my 38 year old brother to inhaling dust off three weeks ago.  He and I both share a home with my elderly grief-stricken mother.  He had been an alcoholic for many years, and after suffering a seizure approximately one year ago, he quit drinking altogether.  He was a very intelligent, loving brother and son.  Last summer he was clean and was the most wonderful person we had ever experienced him being.  He was finally getting his life together, and we thought we had our miracle.  However, last October my mother noticed something wasn't right.  He lived in the lower level of our rather large home; therefore, he had his own space to come and go and do whatever he pleased without being noticed.  I had spent the weekend with my boyfriend and when I arrived home my mother informed me she had found tons of dust off cans downstairs. She had noticed his behavior had abruptly changed.  She called 911 and he went to the emergency room  Shockingly,
the drs. told her there was nothing wrong with him and that "that stuff" can't hurt you.  He refused to stop.  We begged and pleaded to no avail.  I had never heard of such a thing, and I am 46 years old with four teenage children.  After another severe episode,  my mother again called 911.  Same exact thing.  Nobody would admit him nor send him to rehab, as he was unwilling to seek help.  Finally, after being charged with a misdemeanor for inhalant abuse, he stopped.  He was ashamed, sorrowful, and swore he would never do such a thing again.  He was, again, great from November until this past mid February, when we realized he was huffing again.  My mother and I did ANOTHER intervention.  When we went down to the lower level we were horrified.  There were over a hundred and thirty cans all over.  He was lying on the couch in filth.  He had not even been getting up to urinate.  There was urine, old food, filth everywhere.  We told him if he did not go to the counseling center immediately we would again call the cops.  He agreed to go but was back home one hour later.  They told him he was fine to go home and to "make an appt. with a counselor."  The next day he told my mom he was going to stay with a friend.  Five days later she got a call from the hospital that they had her son there and he was dead.  He had been found at a motel, collapsed in the hallway in front of his room.  The police found many cans.  EMS was unable to revive him.  I feel that he was going into the hallway to get help--that he knew he was dying.   I never saw him after that confrontation in the basement.  After receiving the call from the hospital, my mother attempted suicide.  I, again, had spent the weekend at my boyfriends, only to get a call from the next door neighbor that my brother was found dead, my mother just tried to kill herself.  The ambulance is taking her to the hospital and to go immediately.  She survived but is so grief stricken over the loss of her son she just cries all the time and won't seek any kind of help or counseling.  I don't know how to help her, as I too am grieving, trying to figure out how it got this far.  There was no stopping him.  NO dr, counselor, judge...nobody could help.
 
would appreciate some prayers,
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joyce

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So sorry missingphilip - my heart goes out to you and your family.  Wednesday is the year anniversary of losing my beloved 37-year old son to this horror and I cry every day for the loss - just not supposed to happen!  I am praying for you and your mom.
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Thank you Joyce for the prayers.  I'm so sorry about your son.  I just don't understand this whole huffing addiction.  I would have rather him gone back to drinking.  He was afraid to drink because of his previous seizure but wasn't afraid to huff.  I'll never get over it--especially seeing my poor mother cry all of the time as well.
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Thank you for your kind thoughts.  My son was in an alcohol/drug program and was tested regularly so he couldn't use alcohol/drugs or he would get in trouble with the law so my guess is that is why he turned to huffing as I believe it cannot be detected in routine urine tests.  I too do not understand the huffing addiction and I feel only compassion for those who use this terrible poison.  Unfortunately these people do not realize the huge hole they leave in their families left behind - please tell your mom that I too, as a mom, know what she is going through.  Maybe try Al-Anon?  It has been a help to me.
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That's interesting you mentioned that about the drug/alcohol testing.  His friend told me after this happened that the reason he huffed was that he needed to find a way to get high without any urine/blood detection.  I am looking into a grief support group called Compassionate Friends.  I'm going to try to get her to go with me.
I'm thankful at least that it wasn't my mother who found him dead in the basement, and that he didn't leave behind a wife or children.  He had many, many problems.  My mom was a big enabler for years and years because she is a very private person.  I'm sure she's feeling guilt about that as well.  I've mentioned alanon...has no interest in going.  Was your son married?  A father?  How long do you think he had been doing it?  It only takes once from what I understand.  My brother went through several hundreds of cans during the periods he was huffing.
Prayers are with you and your family.

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Today is the year date when my son was discovered - feels like yesterday.  It was fortunate that my son was not married nor left children - this is such a difficult illness to deal with and there seem to be no answers.  I think my son was doing this for about 2 years as, before this, he used alcohol/drugs/prescription pills.  However, once he got in the 3-year program, I believe huffing was the only thing he could do that would not be detected in blood/urine tests.  When we went to his apartment (unfortunately he was across the country from us), there was evidence all around the apartment of huffing.  You can die the first time you use it or the 50th time, it is poison and as we know, kills.  I get info from Compassionate Friends but I live too far away from one where I can participate actively in.  I wish your mom would try Al-Anon - it would give her a little knowledge about the disease and perhaps bring her some peace.  Our family looks back and about 1 1/2 years ago, my son developed a grossly swollen face (in hindsight, I am sure this was from the chemicals in the can) and shortly after that, he developed pneumonia and had to be rushed to the hospital (hindsight once again and most likely this was from the huffing).  Shortly before he died, he severely burnt his hand and told me it was from cooking french fries and once again in hindsight, I believe he was huffing and smoking and his hand got some of the stuff on it, and caught on fire.  Hindsight is always 20/20 unfortunately.
I am headed to the cemetery to visit my son - people need to know that that is where they will be visited if they continue huffing - so sad and heartbroken.
Prayers back to you and your mom as well.
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I am so sorry.  My brother lied and covered up as much as he could until we found all the cans.  Swore he'd stop--he did---then started again.  I'm glad you go to his gravesight.  My mom can't.  I do, though.   It's so hard to believe he's buried two minutes up the street and not stil living in our home.
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Everyone has to move through the web of grief in their own way - no one is alike.  Unfortunately, we had absolutely no idea my son was doing this until AFTER his death.  You and your mom cannot beat up on yourselves as, unfortunately, if the person wants to keep doing this, really not much you can do to stop it.  I understand how your mom feels as, being a mom, we always think we can solve any of our children's problems but that is not the case as we all well know. Your brother most likely had issues with depression?  I pray for peace for you and your family - it will come, but very slowly.
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