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I dont know what to do...my boyfriend has come clean about his addiction. I knew he randomly did it here and there but no idea he was doing 5-6 cans at a time, calling in to work to stay home and do it, pawning things to get $ to buy it. It's a lot worse than i initially thought..
.im leaving a lot of lies and heartache out of it to get to the point..he has said he needs help and has agreed to go to treatment but..i dont know where to start to even get him treatment. There are 2 places that are in his town..(we live about an hour apart right now..why i didnt know how bad it was) but dont know about cost.
I read something on an "Access to recovery" voucher but cant find a lot of information on it. Any advice or help is greatly appreciated
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My name is Claudia.
I have 6 years of experience witnessing the progressive damage that inhaling computer cleaner does to a persons life.
Feel free to email me. Im happy to support and give feedback on what helped and what didn't.
Tell your boyfriend that this addiction WILL kill him. It's not a question of if.
It's a matter of when.
My husband died of this addiction on 6-26-16.
Only 39 years young.
I'm here to help and support both of you. __________________ Cc
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Thank you..im so sorry for your loss. I have told him...apparently hes been doing it the last year or so. Im trying to help him but i dont even know where to start at first i was trying to understand and be there for him but now im so disappointed and heart broken. I know its the addiction and he has finally admitted he needs help and says he will go to a treatment center i just dont have a clue of where to even begin. He doesnt have insurance either..he has a steong support system but they have kind of put it in my hands to get him into treatment
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My son is 32 years old today. He went to rehab for his birthday. I couldn't beleive it. He said he needed help when the counselor spoke with him. He said things I didn't hear, so
much they got him right in. He has insurance but they helped him out. So on his birthday we did all his errands and at exactly 2pm he entered rehab. I don't think it is always a cure, but his body is resting from huffing, and perhaps he won't see the white light of God in death, but in living. My husband, just has regular health problems and he went to Palm Beach Health Department because he had no insurance and we kinda are middle class or maybe lower, anyhow they took him right in and gave him his meds and doctor app't all for 20 dollars. Perhaps if you search and don't ever stop calling you can get help. My son has been using duster for 15 years about every three weeks lots of cans. this time as before he burnt his arms 2d degree. Went to hospital and when he came home I called the rehab to call him and they have a way of helping even over the phone. also you can call 211 and they will give you help and tell you where to take boyfriend, or anyone who needs and wants help. I never thought my son would want help because I never thru him out of the house, but he never did it in the house. He did it on the sidewalk, the cops picked him up and told me they were taking to the hospital. I know every hospital in all of Florida and I would get up 2am and rush to the hospital and not yell at him. I would pet him and tell him he would be alright. whats the use of yelling It is an addiction it needs professionals. I felt sorry for him, even though I didn't know why he did it. I never asked too many questions because a lot of stories were made up by him. Well, Happy Birthday God has us in his hands and who knows what will happen. I am sorry for the women who lost her husband, who knows when our time will be here, you did your best, it was not your fault, a terrible ending to life. __________________ joannpe step
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Just wanted to give an update for those that read or responded to this....we found a treatment center in his area with the help of his dad financially...and he will be going to rehab. I think he finally got scared and really got to see how bad his addiction is after we loaded 11 big black garbage bags of empty cans out of his place this past weekend. So...lets hope for the best.
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Originally Posted by
Kchesser714 Just wanted to give an update for those that read or responded to this....we found a treatment center in his area with the help of his dad financially...and he will be going to rehab. I think he finally got scared and really got to see how bad his addiction is after we loaded 11 big black garbage bags of empty cans out of his place this past weekend. So...lets hope for the best. I'm glad that your boyfriend has decided to seek outside professional help for the apparent inhalant addiction. His admitting that he has a problem is half the battle, too. Your having filled the garbage bags with the empty cans from his place was smart as well, and perhaps that was the wake-up call that he needed. It seems as though inhalant addiction may be somewhat tougher than other addictions due, in part, to the availability of the products that may be used as an inhalant, such as from the local store, in the bathroom cupboard, or underneath the kitchen sink. My friend actually has a severe *Brain Injury* from inhalant use at the age of 12, now in her 30s. It's crucial for people to know that inhalant use may not "only" result in death but may cause permanent injury. If you haven't gotten to a 12-step Al-Anon meeting, please look for a local meeting(s). Even though it's primarily for the friends and family of those whose loved one has an alcohol problem, one may attend an "open" Al-Anon meeting if there is no drinking problem. To search for some local Al-Anon meetings, here is their website: http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/ This website has some common mottos pertaining to those 12-step programs, which includes Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), such as "One day at a time," "First things first," and "People, places and things": http://www.royy.com/toolsofrecovery.html
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have him look into Kratom, many times opiates are the only thing that will cure x huffers, kratom works like opiates but it's legal and safe.. get a hold of me if you want
firstname.lastname@example.org __________________ clay hughes
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I can speak from experience. I was addicted to duster for years. It is a curse. All you do is crave that instant high. What worked for me was love and a live in rehab for a year. My family and friends didn't like that I was doing it but the "gear didn't click" till I was without them in a rehab facility. Duster is more addictive than anyone that's not on it can understand. It is definitely something that requires rehabilitation. Your addicted loved one will hate you at first, but they will get past the addiction in the end. Don't listen to anybody that says it is recreational, it's a habitual drug. Never thought anyone could be addicted to it till I was. But it can be overcome. Hope everything works out for you, praying for the best
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I can second that, no one can begin to imagine the ferocity of this addiction if they haven't been in it. It cannot be expressed in words or anything else, the only way to know it is to live it. I was unstoppable for about a year, I'd go through 6 or more cans a day, often for days in a row.
I am told that I would pass out with the straw in my mouth, holding the can in my hand, finger depressing the trigger, and continue dispensing the duster down my throat even while unconscious. I am told that I would sometimes thrash about as if having a seizure. I am told that I once coughed and gasped until my face was beet red and I rasped out, "I'm going to die". I have no memory of any of this. I am told that I would drool copiously, and indeed I would sometimes notice my shirt was soaked when I came to. I got horrible frostbite on my forearm that ran from the elbow halfway to the wrist; you can still see the damaged skin, an area about 3" x 6". I imagine it will be there until I die.
Every time I bought it, I would start huffing while driving home. I could so easily have killed people by losing consciousness behind the wheel. Many addicts have done this, just Google duster huff crash. I was just lucky. People don't understand how someone would ever drive and, while doing so, use a substance that's sure to knock them out. It's insane, but that is the power of this addiction. You just can't wait to get home. May God forgive me.
I underwent PHP-Level rehab for it, attended a lot of NA meetings, and continued to use (I also tried to work with a sponsor but that didn't go anywhere because I couldn't stop using). Sadly, the thing that finally broke it for me was picking up methamphetamine. I was on meth for a year and a half, just recently came through 3 months residential rehab for it. I haven't touched the cans since the day I first used meth, almost two years ago. I don't advocate this method for quitting, but it seems to have worked for me. I probably should have gone to residential rehab for the duster in the first place, but people just don't understand how insanely addictive this stuff is.
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Wow.. Thank you all for your replies... It got a lot worse before it started to get better... But after a lot of BS, a trip to the hospital because someone found him unresponsive and convulsing, losing his job and almost losing me so far we have 2 months of being clean. I'm not naive to think that everything is going to be just peachy.. We are taking it 1 day at a time and so far so good.
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