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Miramor I've been seeking help for almost a year now and i have yet to actually be able to help my mom. My stepdad introduced it to her and they've been doing it ever since. They lay in bed with the door wide open and huff all day and i see them do it. Im only 16 i have no idea what to do. While on duster my stepdad has elbowed my mom in the face giving her a black eye. She has bruises all over her neck and needs help but i dont think i can. I'm mad at her for choosing duster and my stepdad over me once again as she left me a few years ago for him. Shes a preschool teacher and a wonderful person. I hate to see addiction control her like this. My dad died from heroin and alcohol a few years back. I know duster can kill and im worried because shes all i have left. I've told her all i can and convinced her all i can to stop but she won't listen. I want to stay with my mother i dont want to be taken away from her as the rest of my family doesnt like me but i can't watch her slowly kill herself anymore. This is my last option i have nowhere to go and i have no idea what to do. Please help any way you can even simple advice helps. Im desperate. Thank you Bless you for all of which you're trying to manage. I am so sorry for the loss of your father. It must've been just devastating and difficult still to this day. Please talk with a school counselor about your mother who has an apparent inhalant addiction. It's unfortunate that the products used for huffing are typically so readily accessible, which can make it even more difficult for the person addicted to inhalant use. Please keep in mind that inhalants may be both psychologically (mentally) and physically addictive, so it may be that much more challenging to stop the inhalant use. Please look into attending a local ** Alateen ** support group. That's based off the twelve (12) steps and twelve (12) principles of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), which is primarily for the problem drinker. Alateen is typically for teens with a parent/s (or someone in the home) with a drinking problem, but there may be an "open" Alateen meeting for those whose parents have a drug addiction, for instance. Should there be no local "open" Alateen meetings, the group leader may give permission to a teen to attend a "closed" Alateen meeting. (An Alateen meeting is *not* in place of professional counseling, though.) My friend actually has a severe *Brain Injury* from inhalant use at the age of 12, now in her 40s. Perhaps you mother would benefit from visiting a physical rehabilitation hospital, for instance, that provides treatment for those with brain injury. (Permission from the clinical rehab manager would be required before a visit is possible, however.) It's *not* recommended to visit a health care facility to "observe" (patients) if she is currently intoxicated as that could be a safety issue. Here is the website to learn more about Alateen and their meetings: http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/for-alateen This website should have more info re: some local (or national) substance abuse (and/or mental health) treatment programs: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/ Here is their toll-free 24/7 ** referral ** hotline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357). I'm not sure if you've seen the TV show "Intervention," but it shows a family intervention geared towards those with addiction problems. The goal of an intervention is to try to break through the denial of the person with the addiction. Those who is struggle with an addiction(s) may not realize how they're negatively affecting their friends and loved ones (and/or boss or co-workers, for instance). Some addicts may be in a state of denial if their job is (seemingly) unaffected. An intervention is usually held by those who care about the person with the addiction. Please be aware that the addict is *not* usually told of the upcoming intervention, or he/she may not even show up. It's recommended to only consider an intervention with a trained licensed professional, such as a licensed intervention counselor or at least a Certified Alcohol and Drug Counselor (CADC), which may *help* to lessen the chance of a major outburst or such. There is a book by Vernon Johnson about the process of an intervention called "How to Help Someone Who Doesn't Want Help." Just to reiterate that it's a good idea to only go forth with a licensed addiction professional (though, preferably a licensed intervention counselor).