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kglenn

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My son of 30 yrs huffs computer duster. He has had some issues with alcohol & some drugs in the past. He said his brother-in-law showed him how & he's been doing it since last Feb. (almost a year). By the time I found out he was 6 mon. into it. I learned his wife would buy him the duster knowing what he was going to do with it. She is now a recovering alcoholic of bout 2 months. Since my learning of my sons addiction. I have read just about anything I could get my hands onto. Weve tried talking him to getting help. But he usually tells us he can quit any time hes not addicted. When we found him high in our front yard & still huffing when he was suppose to be here to pick up his kids for a visit, we knew hes addicted. Instead of checking himself into rehab he paid for his wife to go. We started turning him away from our home. (tough love isnt for the faint hearted) he was sleeping in our truck at night & hanging out with me inside during the day, b/c he had no where else to go.
He checked himself into a rehab after we refused our truck to him at night, only to leave a week later claiming they said he didnt have addiction. In court the paper only read that the rehab people thought he wasnt being truthful.
So this gave him permission of sorts to leave rehab. Personally I beleive he left b/c it was the begining of the month & payday. He use all his money on hotels & duster. 
Hes been in the crisis stabilization unit twice since Thanksgiving. But thats just a monitoring of his meds. B/c I have custody of his kids we have a social worker, and he has been ordered to obtain outpatient help. He did go, explained why he was there & added he did huff, he doesnt huff now, he doesnt have a desire. The therapist said he didnt need to be there.
His wife completing her own program has managed to get him to attend AA mtgs. Though my son said he hasnt huffed in a month (actually 3 weeks) I beleive he has just gotten better at hiding it. He tells me he only did it b/c he thought he lost his kids for good. But it doesnt make sense either b/c he was huffing 6 mons. before removal was even a consideration.
The first time we found him sitting out front in a friends car huffing, he was incoherent & acted like a child trying to hide the cookie he just stole. My husband managed to talk him into going to the hospital only b/c the police wont touch him if the keys arnt in the ignition. (we had already removed them) The hospital gave him some oxgyen & told him huffing was worst then meth, explained all the dangers. He swore he wouldnt do it again. Came to our home, asked for his friends keys said he was going to take the car back to him. We gave them. He parked at his friends house & Huffed again. This time we called the police & asked he be arrested. They did & he spent not quite a week in jail. Got out & huffed some more. My husband spoke to  someone we go to church with that runs a rehab (FOS) and got an appt. My son told us they didnt want him there. They thought he came to the appt high & he has dual diagnosis, being on medication that someone else is addicted to would cause issues. Its so frustrating to see such a wonderful man throw his life away. 
His sister said the other day, why doesnt he just go ahead & do it, get it over with so the rest of us can live.
As horrible as it sounds we all felt it at some time in our despair for the person addicted that we love. We have grown tired, weary of waiting for the knock on the door that will bring us the news that its over. This is no way to live. 
Every thing I read is about prevention.... there isnt a whole lot concerning stopping, cleaning up. Unless we have money or good insurance or live in a big city help just isnt there.
I got worried one day after his therapist secretary called & said he was incoherent & they needed to make sure he was alright. I called his therapist the next day (knowing she could only listen) And told her everything. She didnt know anything about huffing.
I want so much to beleive hes clean but as long as he tells me it wasnt/isnt a addiction/problem then I just cant. And my heart breaks daily for him.
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I'm so sorry for your pain.  There is help out there, both through AA and similar programs, as well as treatment (which does seem to require money or insurance, from what I know).  The main thing is that he needs to recognize he needs help. Also, for you there is Al Anon, which might help you detach.  He doesn't need to be in AA for you to be in Al Anon.  It sounds like you need some support. Al Anon has helped me understand that I can't control or cure anyone else's addiction problems.    My prayers are with you.  FYI - my family member has received treatment with dual diagnosis. Treatment centers to treat people with dual diagnoses.
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kglenn - Thank you for sharing your story.  I'm sorry that you're going through such a difficult time with your son.  MT gave some excellent advice re: (regarding) attending Al-Anon which is primarily for the Friends and Family of the alcoholic, but one may attend an "open" meeting if the loved one doesn't have a drinking problem.  For Al-Anon meetings:  http://www.al-anon.alateen.org  

 

There are substance abuse treatment programs for those with a dual diagnosis as was mentioned, also known as MICA (mental illness chemical addiction).  A board-certified psychiatrist is typically on-staff and has experience with those with a dual diagnosis. 

 

One of the issues with inhalant addiction is that the products used for huffing are so readily available.  The inhalant user may not realize that the chemicals in products used for huffing are actual POISONS that were never meant to go through the bloodstream.

 

I'm not sure if you're familar with a family intervention, but perhaps that is an option.  There are no guarantees that the addict will have a breakthrough and realize that he or she has an addiction and needs treatment, however, perhaps it can "plant the seed" for the future.  The goal of an intervention is to try to break through the denial of the addict.  Please ONLY go forth with a certified interventionist or at least a certified addiction counselor.  Just fyi that the addict usually does NOT know about the intervention beforehand or he/she may not actually show up.  It is *not* usually covered by health insurance, but some interventionists who are connected with an addictions treatment program will do the intervention free of charge *if* the loved one enters treatment. 

 

In general, should the addict refuse to go to rehab after the intervention, the family and all participants usually tell the addict of the consequences that will take place such as not giving that person money, not calling in "sick" for the addict, or not even having contact with the individual until after entering treatment and having sobriety.

 

For more information about an intervention:  http://www.aetv.com/intervention/learn-more/

 

There are no easy answers when it comes to addiction.  Please get some outside support for you and your family in the process.  If your son has a mental illness, there is a non-profit organization called NAMI (national alliance on mental illness) that may have a free support group or workshop for the loved ones of the person with a mental health disorder:  http://www.nami.org and can click "Find Your Local NAMI" or such. 

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Kglenn...if you have been reading my posts then you know my BROTHER died from this just two short months ago. As a mom myself I can't imagine what you are going through. For my mom she had no idea of my brother (36) addiction to this poison . And we are are a very close family. I have spoken to her about your post and as a grieving mother she can't bring herself to read these posts or comment on them. But what i can tell you is that she would like to speak to you if you want. I can email you her cel number and maybe she can share with you what she is going through because my dear brother is DEAD. I want no one to know this pain that we are in. It's 3:30 am and I sit up every night thinking of how we didn't get a chance to help him with his addiction. How we were robed of a chance to save a son,brother and father to 3 lil girls. If you want it just send me a message through this forum and I'll get it to you. I will be thinking of you and praying for your family. And remember don't drive with him. Black outs are common and his next CAN could be his last. Praying for answers, missingmybrother
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My son Tyler died at age 24 on 01/26/10 from inhaling computer duster.  It had been going on for less than a month.  We got him into an outpatient facility almost immediately, he lived at home and worked in my office, so I drove him to and from work.  His friends picked him up when they went out so that he couldn't buy duster, and they also held an intervention for him.  He got it anyway and died in the bathroom of the office in which we worked.  I'm the one who found him.  Please show this post to your brother - my son is gone and is never coming back.  I don't believe he ever thought he would die, but he did.

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