My son of 30 yrs huffs computer duster. He has had some issues with alcohol & some drugs in the past. He said his brother-in-law showed him how & he's been doing it since last Feb. (almost a year). By the time I found out he was 6 mon. into it. I learned his wife would buy him the duster knowing what he was going to do with it. She is now a recovering alcoholic of bout 2 months. Since my learning of my sons addiction. I have read just about anything I could get my hands onto. Weve tried talking him to getting help. But he usually tells us he can quit any time hes not addicted. When we found him high in our front yard & still huffing when he was suppose to be here to pick up his kids for a visit, we knew hes addicted. Instead of checking himself into rehab he paid for his wife to go. We started turning him away from our home. (tough love isnt for the faint hearted) he was sleeping in our truck at night & hanging out with me inside during the day, b/c he had no where else to go.
He checked himself into a rehab after we refused our truck to him at night, only to leave a week later claiming they said he didnt have addiction. In court the paper only read that the rehab people thought he wasnt being truthful.
So this gave him permission of sorts to leave rehab. Personally I beleive he left b/c it was the begining of the month & payday. He use all his money on hotels & duster.
Hes been in the crisis stabilization unit twice since Thanksgiving. But thats just a monitoring of his meds. B/c I have custody of his kids we have a social worker, and he has been ordered to obtain outpatient help. He did go, explained why he was there & added he did huff, he doesnt huff now, he doesnt have a desire. The therapist said he didnt need to be there.
His wife completing her own program has managed to get him to attend AA mtgs. Though my son said he hasnt huffed in a month (actually 3 weeks) I beleive he has just gotten better at hiding it. He tells me he only did it b/c he thought he lost his kids for good. But it doesnt make sense either b/c he was huffing 6 mons. before removal was even a consideration.
The first time we found him sitting out front in a friends car huffing, he was incoherent & acted like a child trying to hide the cookie he just stole. My husband managed to talk him into going to the hospital only b/c the police wont touch him if the keys arnt in the ignition. (we had already removed them) The hospital gave him some oxgyen & told him huffing was worst then meth, explained all the dangers. He swore he wouldnt do it again. Came to our home, asked for his friends keys said he was going to take the car back to him. We gave them. He parked at his friends house & Huffed again. This time we called the police & asked he be arrested. They did & he spent not quite a week in jail. Got out & huffed some more. My husband spoke to someone we go to church with that runs a rehab (FOS) and got an appt. My son told us they didnt want him there. They thought he came to the appt high & he has dual diagnosis, being on medication that someone else is addicted to would cause issues. Its so frustrating to see such a wonderful man throw his life away.
His sister said the other day, why doesnt he just go ahead & do it, get it over with so the rest of us can live.
As horrible as it sounds we all felt it at some time in our despair for the person addicted that we love. We have grown tired, weary of waiting for the knock on the door that will bring us the news that its over. This is no way to live.
Every thing I read is about prevention.... there isnt a whole lot concerning stopping, cleaning up. Unless we have money or good insurance or live in a big city help just isnt there.
I got worried one day after his therapist secretary called & said he was incoherent & they needed to make sure he was alright. I called his therapist the next day (knowing she could only listen) And told her everything. She didnt know anything about huffing.
I want so much to beleive hes clean but as long as he tells me it wasnt/isnt a addiction/problem then I just cant. And my heart breaks daily for him.