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janesmith

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Please, those still struggling, take control and reach out to the local community resources, too!  There are 12-step groups throughout the country and world, and counseling and treatment programs, too. 

 

Please do SOMETHING PRODUCTIVE about getting yourself well before it's too late, and your parents are either planning to bury you 6 feet underneath the ground or visiting you in a Brain Injury treatment clinic.

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Just giving a caring *bump* of this post for newcomers and all who've responded.
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To redwolf - my heart really goes out to you. I know the pain and struggles of this all too well. I - too had to disinvolve myself from it. Sooner or later your son is going to be in a position of trouble and will eventually be forced to treatment or jail if he doesn't die first. Sounds like the destructive path he's headed down and it's sad - but that is this disease. Just feel bad for you and your situation. It hurts like hell, and for your own sanity some difficult choices have to be made. That's the reality of it - that other "normal" people don't know. Remember this: Addicts don't care who they hurt. They don't care about what they do - (their actions), and feel no remorse. They don't hurt because they are numbing it with their substance. They become manipulators and liars - will go to any lengths to get their fix. This has absolutely NOTHING to do with you personally. You are just there - lucky you, for him to manipulate through your loving his mother. He uses that to get what he wants - and see's that it works. So he will continue. Enablement - tell your wife - because my husband laid down the law in our house. If my daughter does it again - she's out. And out she was...but she is still alive and clean today because when we kicked her out she had no place to go. She had to realize the importance of her life on her own. You have no control whatsoever over what they do - even if you hog tie em' and lock em' in a closet. They will knaw their way out and find a way if they want it bad enough. Kick him to the curb. Talk to your wife - and set some ground rules for your house and make sure your wife will back you up. She needs to be supportive of you with this and you need to make her realize that you need her support for this. Lay down some ground rules - take away his priveledges, cars, money, take the hinges off his bedroom door - he isn't entitled to privacy anymore - (just suggestions), tell him this is how it's going to go from now on or he can leave. This is your home, and he will respect it or he needs to go. Tell your wife, no cooking, cleaning for him. Don't give him the upper hand. Take back your house, Take back your wife and mostly get your own life back. Don't ever let anyone take that from you. You deserve a good quality of life just like anyone else - and nobody's perfect. So NO GUILT either! You didn't do this. Make him own up to himself. Sink or swim. You need to get motivated and encouraged - remember the only thing you can control is you. This thing with your son must have really thrown you an unexpected curve and I know the feeling! Not sure how to react to it, not sure what to do. What you can do is start with the facts. What you do know, your core values in life, and what you want. What can you do to get what you want out of this? Investigate it, communication with your wife is KEY here, because she is involved. Sounds like you want your marriage to work, and hopefully she does too. Sounds like you want some peace and quiet - and you can get that too. Whatever your son struggles with is his own learning experiences. He has to figure that out. It's his life - not yours. Don't let him own you or rent space in your head. Someone once told me, " Order your day - don't let it order you." Take some time for yourself if you need it, to think things through with a clear mind. This challenge has been placed in your life for a reason. You are supposed to learn something from this. Don't let it destroy who you are or let it hinder your life. And one last thing - If my daughter had ever wrecked my car - excuses or not, she's walkin from now on!  You best believe it.
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Just giving the post a *bump*, which stands for "bring up my post," for any newcomers to these supportive boards.
janesmith

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*Please* reread my original post and utilize the resources out there for getting help either for you or a loved one!!
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We can say what you provide truly meaningful, addiction and related issues we need to end them for a better life and help as well as trust with people who need detoxification is essential.
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Really thank you this information. I have a friend who is addicted to the smell of gasoline was heavy and inhibitory neural born paranoid but I do not know what to do to help.


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Really thank you this information. I have a friend who is addicted to the smell of gasoline was heavy and inhibitory neural born paranoid but I do not know what to do to help.




I'm sorry that it's been so long before responding.  Hopefully, your friend has since gotten some outside professional help for the mental health issues and apparent inhalant addiction.  For the relatives and friends of the person with a drug addiction (as opposed to an alcohol problem), one may attend an "open" Al-Anon meeting.
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Here is just a gentle "bump" for anyone that is new here to the message board.  Please be proactive in your recovery whether you're the person with an addiction (and/or mental illness) or a loved one of someone who is struggling.
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that sh*t don't work buddy, believe me they want nothing to do with huffers, email me clayhughes@netins.net, huffed for 2 years when i was 9, lost my mind, found a way to get it back, email me clayhughes@netins.net
I can help!

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that shlt don't work buddy, believe me they want nothing to do with huffers, email me clayhughes@netins.net, huffed for 2 years when i was 9, lost my mind, found a way to get it back, email me clayhughes@netins.net
I can help!

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