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Missutee, I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I will pray for you & your daughter. This addiction is so terrible & it destroys so much. You can get through this, you must for your daughter. My ex has not lost his life yet to dust off but has lost everything else & my son has needed me to be strong for him through this last 8 months of chaos & hell. It is not your fault, this poison is so powerful & grabs people so tight, I have never seen anything like it. My ex spent 2 months in jail, got out and within 12 hours was at a drug store. Sending you prayers...
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To Anyone Out There who is considering huffing Dust off - PLEASE DON'T. My best friend died on Sunday from inhalation of Dust Off. It literally destroyed his life and then killed him. It is not something to even do once, he was addicted beyond your wildest imagination. Please heed my warning and maybe his death will save someone else. God Bless
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jbjoey I am so very sorry for your loss. I don't know how much I can help you. My son began to use dust off about 3 months before he died. He had started drinking heavily and was getting pressure from his friends and girlfriend to cut back. My assumption is that he was looking for a substitute for alcohol and figured this was legal and cheap. He was hooked almost immediately. As soon as we found out we put him in out patient treatment and wouldn't let him go in a car without family or friends driving him. But I think the addiction was too strong. He would find ways to get it and use it anyway. I knew nothing about addiction before this happened. He had never used other drugs before this. I found a therapist who is a specialist in addiction. it took a long time before I understood what addition really was, understood that he was really suffering from addiction. It has been a long hard road to understanding what happened and why. The sad thing is that dust off is easy to get, legal and cheap. But it also is deadly. More so than heroin, crack, etc. It can kill the first time. My son never understood that. I will pray for you and your family. Let me know what your story is.
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I have a 27 yr. old son who I just recently found out was using Dust-Off as a way to get high since Pot shows up on drug tests as well as other drugs. It scared me to death and I am trying to get him help. He has been addicted to many drugs in the past and has lost everything he owns as well as stealing from others, family and strangers to support his habits. I think this has only been recent due to the accessibility of being able to walk into Walmart and shoplift a can as needed. I do not know what to do for him. I have helped him financially in the past and are no longer able to. He has been kicked out and has been homeless and this just leads to more stealing. I believe all of his drug use started due to self medicating for ADHD and Depression. He has lost jobs over other drugs and pawned everything he owned and divorced and nothing seems to wake him up that he has a problem. I am very afraid that I will find him dead one morning. I have let him live with me again. I have offered rehab and tried to find help for him and get nothing except lies and empty promises. I figure he will end up dead or in jail . I don"t want either one and have run out of $$ to help financially due to his past mistakes. Now I have to be worried that any household chemical will be a substitute for pot for him because he can get away with it easier. I know he needs positives in his life, but he has made it difficult to find a job. He has not worked in over a year. He gets by with odd jobs from friends to buy his cigarettes and hang out with and get high. I just don't know what to do. I have made him an appt. for a mental health evaluation but I do not know how honest he will be. I have also started him on a supplement to help with depression hoping that will help. He is 27 and there is only so much I can do for him. I know he has to want to be clean himself or nothing I do will matter. Thanks for listening and letting me get my thoughts out.
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I'm so sorry everyone for the lose of your loved one .... ! I came here to find someone who was like me ... I lost my husband in 2014 and he was 30 years old . Reading all these stories , they are so familiar . Duster is a terrible , terrible thing ! I've seen my husband fight many different addictions but once the he got In trouble with the law he had to wear that ankle moniter and all hell broke lose shortly after when he started doing air duster ! He was such beautiful soul , with a lot of pain ! He lost his live and it was the air duster that did it in the end ! He was out of control ! I never seen anything like it ! Just completely terrible ! It was the fastest unravel I had ever seen or heard about ... Watching a man who was handsome , driven , loving , compassionate , and just all around amazing in general crumble and turn into a shell and quickly lost his live in just under a year ....I can't even begin to tell you the pain and the heartache and horrible ,scary memories of watching him that stuff and eventually having to try tough love and not let him home .. He didn't make it home , less then 2 weeks after getting out of jail for a couple months because of the stuff , I told him he couldn't come home because I knew He was doing it again and the kids couldn't see him like that ever again ... He died , less then 2 weeks after getting out of jail ... My heart breaks and I cry everyday because of the terrible way he used duster and it killed him ! He is the love of my life and I'm left with 2 kids 30 years old ... This lose is incredibly hard because he is my soul mate ...I miss my husband so dearly ! I'm so sorry , I understand completely ! I'm glad I came hear to read stories about this so now I don't feel so alone ! Bless you all ! Please stop using this if you do and or please understand and help the person you know doing this ... It is no joke and it literally kills , never seen anything so horrible .... I'm so sorry again to everyone ! Lots of prayers and positive love and vibes to all of you !
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Concernedmom, I'm so sorry for the hell you are in right now ... Your son sounds a lot like my husband . I wish I had advise for you , but really all I can say is get him checked in somewhere if he's willing ASAP ! The addiction to that stuff is out of control and that stuff is everywhere and easy to get .... I will pray for you and him because I know exactly how you feel at this very moment ! I hope your son gets help and I hope you are ok as well... Don't be afraid to tell anyone what he's doing ! That was my problem at some points , didn't want him in trouble ... Try your best to get him away from that stuff by all means ... It takes over and they are not in their right minds at all ... I'm so sorry !
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I hope you were able to stay off of it. I hope everyone who is recovering from this can beat it. __________________ run 3 unblocked | mahjong free games | head soccer
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I too have been down this road with a loved one and still am. He has lost everything. All he cares about is his can and wanting to die. All of us who love him have learned we need to walk away from his toxic ways, there is nothing you can say or do to help an addict if they don't want the help!! As much as that hurts it's true. I hate having to walk away from him but I have to love myself more and to not keep doing this to myself for my own well being.
I have never seen anything like the power this can has over people it's just heartbreaking to deal with.
Each addict has to hit a rock bottom they say and I do believe this but even then they just don't care and it's only a matter of time until their body cannot handle what they are doing and death will come.
I chose to say goodbye while he is alive still. I pray for anyone who has to go through this, there aren't enough words to describe all the feelings that we the loved ones suffer having to watch our loved ones turn into an empty shell of a person.
I have offered him everything and even that was not enough to make him want to get help..I truly believe if they could change they would but the addiction this can has is far to powerful.
I hope others here dealing with this can find the strength to walk away from the ones they know who have this evil addiction and to find peace with it knowing that this is not your fault and there isn't anything you could have done differently that would have changed the one you love.
To the ones that have lost someone find peace knowing their demons are no longer a fight and that they are at peace and whole again waiting until we are reunited again.
And to the poster who wrote they didn't choose the can over their loved ones, I once thought they did, it was a choice they made, but after dealing first hand with all this I truly believe if they could stop they would.
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Thank you so much for your words beansandmia! Your are very very right and it's the sad truth . I'm traumatized from seeing my husband die from this stuff and everything you said is perfect ! I feel like you were a message , I struggle with this lose every minute of my life ! God Bless you and you are doing the right thing ... I was forced to do tough love and even with that he was taken and his body gave out ... This is a crazy , powerful drug and it grabs ahold of someone like nothing I have ever seen ...
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Bonniebelle, I am so sorry that you have to go through this!! My story came to a head, I walked away but I am friends with the couple he lived with.....and the end to my story goes like this.....
He was in county jail for almost 30 days, he got out and ran for his can, his last friend took him for breakfast and then ended the friendship. He went home laid on his bed and started huffing, I told my friend I know 100% he would be walking in that house with cans, I know this man better then he even knows himself and even more so now. So they were on the lookout. Someone had went down to check and heard the can going off he opened the door and snapped pics of hhim then left and the cops were called, in a 10 min time span untill the cops came and when that person seen him last his poor body was not used to the amount of huffing he did prior to sitting for a month, he vomited all over himself,his bed and the floor, (I came over once the cops took him, I cleaned it all up then packed his entire room as he knew coming out of jail he had 7 days to pack and move out)
By the grace of god he didn't aspirate all that liquid in his lungs and die! His mom and I are so very thankful for that.
I did go to county to see him and let him know how lucky he truly was, given the addict he is he said the reason he got sick wasn't from huffing, he hasn't had his stomach pills for a month. I said ohh really you weren't huffing and that's what made you sick?!?? I said then why do the cops have pics of you huffing? Why is it when they came in your room you had a can in your hand and another next to you, why did the cops have to tell you to put the cans down..after throwing up he continued to huff till the cops came. He had bought 7 cans that morning, I know with out a doubt he would have killed himself had they not been checking on him because he thought he could pick up how he left off the month prior but his body couldn't handle it, that was the 1st time he ever got sick.
Also I would like to add when he 1st started huffing it was small hits that just made him act weird, then this weird laugh would start, then as he got more hooked he had hallucinations, arguing with people that weren't there and then the final stages complete blackouts and as soon as he would start coming back around he would pound more duster and blackout again...wash and repeat until however many cans he would have were gone!!
I took a video that he knew I was going to do before he started in that almost 10 min video it shows him at two different points where he stops breathing and I have to bang on his chest to get him breathing again. I never did show him this, I wanted to, I just never did. I wish now that I would have but I know it would not have changed a single thing. I want my voice taken off of it,(I don't like how panicked I am in it) then when I do that I'm going to make a copy and put it in a box that has all his important things in it, along with the 7 state cop. Videos of his accidents all while he is driving and huffing, this coming from a man who says he never would drive and do that, he never fooled me, but he did others who lent him their cars only for him to total them out. I thank God every day that he didn't hurt anyone or himself. I honestly have always held out hope for this man but before he got out that morning I had a letter there waiting for him letting him know I no longer held any hope for him. I had wrote alot of hurtful things in that letter but all of which were true, the most painful for him to read no doubt was me telling him he turned into the man he never wanted to be, his dad, only instead of booze his addiction was a can of death. I know for a fact he read all 8 pages because I found the letter in the trash but the pages were not in the correct order, I give him some credit tho for reading all of it. I really hope he gets the help he needs to be a better person and to love himself enough to seek that help so when he does get out he can live a good life and enjoy all the wonderful things this earth has given us.
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Just wanted to leave an update. Especially for those who are currently using and trying to stop. There is hope, and you can beat this. I've been clean for a long time now, since I spoke about my mishap in the first post, in my new life. I don't crave huffing anymore. Ever. Rarely does huffing even cross my mind, and when it does the thought of it is revolting. When I pass cans of it on the shelves at stores, I am sad more than anything else. Sad to see how ridiculously well stocked many places are, and sad knowing the reason why. But most importanly, I can walk by without the fear of today being the day duster gets the best of me. That's what those of you who struggle need to understand. You DO have to get yourself into rehab, and you WILL have to be strong that first year after you stop, and avoid the temptation that is everywhere. But it gets easier as time goes on. The uncontrollable cravings will stop in 3 to 4 week's. So rehab yourself for that long. Don't make excuses, or lie to yourself, because it will cost you your life. After that, just stay strong, and do what is necessary. Surround yourself with those who care about you, and take precautions, like speaking to those at local stores about not selling you duster. Have a family member give them your picture if you are too embarrassed. 3 to 4 weeks, and you have a fresh start. Every week that passes after this, you will find it easier to say no. Every month that passes, you will think of it less. And I promise you, If you just hang in there, one day you will not only have your life back, but will never even cross your mind as something you want again. Don't lose hope. I huffed for over year, and if in my weak and mentally unsound state I could make it, I am sure everyone else can also. You only have to give up the idea you can beat it alone. Give in to getting help, and don't forget that it WILL get better.