dauhgter
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| | 07/09/10 at 07:44 PM | Reply with quote | #1 |
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| I recently found out my mom is huffing but I don't know exactly what. I understand there isn't really anything I can do about it but I can't watch her kill herself like this. She denied it until I caught her and now she just says she quit or is going to quit. I don't know what kind of answer I am looking for; maybe I just need to know if help is possible.
She is in here mid-forties, has had a history of cocaine abuse and is going through the loss of her father. I don't understand why or how she introduced herself to this drug but I need advice. She has been doing it atleast two months prior to the loss of her father. |
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cerrick
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| | 07/11/10 at 03:19 PM | Reply with quote | #2 |
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Encourage her to enter a rehabilitation program, and pray for her. My sister died last December from inhaling computer dusting spray. She was also a mother of two teenagers and in her late 30's. Inhalant abuse seems to be a growing trend among adults, and former drug users as my sister was also. Please talk to your mother and ask her to seek help. This will kill her if she continues. I will keep you both in my prayers.
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QueshiaB
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| | 07/19/10 at 10:39 AM | Reply with quote | #3 |
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dauhgter- Of course help is possible, but your mother is going to have to want it. Please continue to support her as she goes through this rough time.
Continue to tell her you love her and talk to her candidly about the effects of abuse. Like cerrick has shared death is a reality when it comes to inhalant abuse. Having her peers and/or other family members involved to speak with her about abuse would be great, and also eliviate some of the burden from you.
We encourage people to speak with a family doctor or medical professional in their area for local resources. In terms of independent research you could check out the Center for Substance Abuse Treatment: http://dasis3.samhsa.gov. After clicking on the link a map will pop up, click on your state to see what treatment facilities are in your area.
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janesmith
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| | 07/19/10 at 01:19 PM | Reply with quote | #4 |
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dauhgter - Thank you for posting here and for looking for ways to help your mom as well as yourself. Addiction does affect the whole family, and I'm sorry that you're having to deal with a parent who has an apparent inhalant addiction. I'm not sure if you're familiar with the process of a 'family intervention' (that may also include bosses, coworkers, friends - anyone that is concerned about your mom), and it's not usually covered by health insurance, but that may be an option in which to look. The intervention doesn't always end with the person entering treatment, but perhaps it may "plant the seed" for the future.
The goal of an intervention is to try to break through the addict's denial that there actually is a problem and if that person refuses to go to treatment, there are then specific consequences to be put into place. (**It's best to only proceed with a family intervention with a certified interventionist or addictions counselor.) Examples of possible consequences if the person refuses treatment may include not giving the addict money (which would be enabling the addiction) or offering to pay for his/her rent, not making up excuses to the addict's boss about why he/she hasn't shown up for work, not having any contact with the individual until getting treatment or such. Just fyi that with an intervention, the person with the addiction would Not know about the family meeting beforehand or he/she might not show up.
I'm not sure how to get a loved one involuntarily committed to a locked psychiatric facility, but due to the nature of her addiction, perhaps you can call the local municipal building and ask how the courts may get involved that way, too. QueshiaB had an excellent suggestion to talk with her family doctor, and she'd provided the link to search for counseling and treatment programs, too.
This site has some information about the process of an intervention: http://www.drugfree.org/Intervention/HelpingOthers
It's important that you get help for yourself even if your mom doesn't want to help herself get well. A free 12-step support group for the relatives and friends of the addict - Nar-Anon: http://www.nar-anon.org
Al-anon is another free 12-step group that is generally for the family members and friends of the problem drinker. However, one may attend an "open" meeting if the person with the addiction doesn't drink. There tend to be more Al-anon than Nar-Anon meetings nationwide: http://www.al-anon.alateen.org
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vfellers
Registered: 07/18/10
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| | 07/19/10 at 01:58 PM | Reply with quote | #5 |
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There are laws in different states that allows loved ones to have someone committed to a rehab facility for 10 to 30 days against there will if need be, if that loved one can prove usually in a hearing that they are a danger to themselves or others. This may or may not work in your case if it is available. But it gives you a little hope that something might be said or done to help.
It is called a Mental Hygene in some states and the baker act in others. Check online or call your local courthouse to find out what is available. Hope this helps.
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